Random Gibberish

Why does everyone want relationships?

I once watched an interview that said that boyfriends are for lonely boring people who have too much time on their hands. I was no less fierce in my attacks at the girly fuss and mooning over the one ‘prince charming’ during my school days. I once considered myself invincible to these matters and mocked at people in relationships to be spineless, merely reveling in actions to win approval from another who had just simply hijacked their life.

I was rather happy making friends and living my simple happy life. Maybe that was why I failed to comprehend the exceedingly complicated lives my girlfriends led. To me it seemed as if they perpetually wore their hearts on their sleeves, sometimes making such utter fools of themselves that I’d rather have disappeared down a hole and never reappeared. One has to however hand it to them for their impeccable resilience, to be able to bounce right back into action. What was it that made boys so important to them that I couldn't fathom?

Don’t get me wrong, I liked boys too, but for other reasons. It was easy to get along with them, they keep you laughing almost constantly, there’s no need to make conversation for the sake of it, and you most definitely don’t have to be sure to notice the new lip colour he is wearing and for once you can be honest when asked have I become fat!

This was who I was- a typical rebel. But something changed somewhere along the way, I too experienced the feeling that I had found incomprehensible for the longest period in my life. Romance and mushiness is I guess ingrained in every girl, there’s no escaping it and I too fell a prey.

Well what can I say? Some things just cannot be explained, they need to be experienced and this is definitely one of those. With this wonderful someone in my life, I learnt things that I never knew about myself. Doing things by yourself is not always a sign of independence and turning to another for support not a sign of weakness. Being a source of strength and even inspiration for my significant other filled with a special kind of warmth – an emotion I had no idea I was capable of experiencing.

Life however was not a bed of roses. Despite all the happiness and the warm and fuzzy feelings, I too experienced my fair share of problems. But the trick I realized along the way, is to not lose yourself in a quest to win your partner’s approval. Communicate, discuss, debate even fight it out, but don’t give up something you are sure you want. If your loved one doesn't love you for who you are, then what is the point? A relationship is a beautiful bond where the two people love understand and accept each other for being the unique individuals they are.

Ha! Can you believe I’m offering relationship advice now? Love does funny things to you indeed. I’m glad I have a special someone in my life. However take it from me, if you are happy by yourself, there’s no earthly reason to set out on a hunt for that ‘one’.

Cheers to all you lovely people reading this. Life is way too short to worry. Live and let live. Have a great day!